While it seems like wedding planning needs to be go-go-go, remember that you are creating the most romantic and enjoyable day of your life – the day you get to marry your soul’s truest match, your best friend and the absolute love of your life! Take MANY moments to “take it all in” and absorb your surroundings; don’t rush finding your vendors, visit as many venues as you want, be flexible, and remember at the end of your Big Day, the only thing that will matter is that you have your spouse by your side.
While people will tell you to invite your second great aunt’s cousin, that is not their choice! YOU are the couple getting married, it’s YOUR day, and these are YOUR guests. Invite people that bring joy to your life, that share in moments with you both as individuals or couples, that you know will appreciate being there and celebrating, not just going for the food and drinks! The guest list can be tough, but once again, it’s YOUR DAY!
While Pinterest-inspired weddings have taken over the industry, trying to do TOO much yourself will cause stress, anxiety, and your bridesmaids feeling like they can’t catch a break! Asking too much of your bridal party (and yourself!) can be overwhelming on all accounts. And sometimes having to buy the countless items needed to make your centerpieces, table-scapes, etc. can cost more than renting or purchasing them fully made! Be conscious of your own time during this process, it’s valuable!
While many people do not eat when they’re nervous or stressed, I always suggest my brides, grooms and full bridal parties have breakfast/brunch available while they are getting ready, and snacks and beverages for directly after the ceremony. I also suggest ensuring you take a breather from saying hello to your guests at the reception and enjoy the meal that you picked out! Your body will appreciate the nourishment after a long day, and when you look back, you will be thankful you spent those moments together, eating your first meal together as a married couple!
With bridal magazines and online forums, it’s easy to forget that this day is truly to capture you and your fiancé. If you love books and reading, have some of your favorites displayed as part of your décor. If your fiancé loves football, perhaps order him a groom cake to show your guests his interests too! Don’t let other people’s weddings and social media take over the day YOU are planning – remember it’s not what other people want, it’s what you want.
Just like I tell my brides, “If you think it’s expensive to hire a professional, wait until you hire an amateur” (if you’re debating hiring a professional wedding planner or a Day-Of Coordinator, keep your eyes peeled for another blog as to why it’s so important to do so!). Hiring a cheap or unprofessional photographer is a HUGE no-no. Your day needs to be captured exactly how it was; not with iPhone-quality images, unfocused photographs, or missed moments. Be sure to read reviews of recent brides that used this photographer, request to see recent galleries, and do some Google searches for their images to ensure they are who they say they are!
It’s easy to let the opinions or advice of others sway your decisions, because they “think they know best”, and you want to believe them. But this can also cause turmoil between you and your fiancé; especially when it is your side of the family telling you one thing, and theirs requesting another. Stay focused on what the two of you want and make your love and wedding-day desires the most important thing.
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