Wedding Planner Melissa Bee Shares 10 Insider Wedding Tips Every Bride Needs To Hear!

June 20, 2018

Wedding Planner Melissa Bee Shares 10 Insider Wedding Tips Every Bride Needs To Hear!

by Melissa Bee

Are you spending the better part of your days researching wedding venues, attempting to have all your bridesmaids agree on one style of dress, booking vendors you’ve never met, and ordering invitations? Perhaps you’re also fighting with an Excel Spread Sheet (and ruling out the “things you really need vs. the things you really want”) just to keep that budget intact? The list goes on and on! Planning a wedding can be overwhelming, even as time consuming as second full-time job, but sometimes it just takes some out-of-the-box thinking, a “big day” perspective, and of course, some helpful hints from people who do it every day (like me!).
With that being said, don’t fret, I’ve got your back! I’ve gathered my Top 10 Insider Tips to help you through the mountain-climbs of wedding planning; to keep you stress free and on an enjoyable path towards the happiest day of your life!

New York Wedding Planner Melissa Bee

1. Enjoy your time as an engaged couple!

While it seems like wedding planning needs to be go-go-go, remember that you are creating the most romantic and enjoyable day of your life – the day you get to marry your soul’s truest match, your best friend and the absolute love of your life! Take MANY moments to “take it all in” and absorb your surroundings; don’t rush finding your vendors, visit as many venues as you want, be flexible, and remember at the end of your Big Day, the only thing that will matter is that you have your spouse by your side.

2. Really discuss and review your guest list as a couple – your wedding day is intimate, invite the ones that matter most and that have an active part in your life.

While people will tell you to invite your second great aunt’s cousin, that is not their choice! YOU are the couple getting married, it’s YOUR day, and these are YOUR guests. Invite people that bring joy to your life, that share in moments with you both as individuals or couples, that you know will appreciate being there and celebrating, not just going for the food and drinks! The guest list can be tough, but once again, it’s YOUR DAY!

3. Don’t try to DIY on too many things!

While Pinterest-inspired weddings have taken over the industry, trying to do TOO much yourself will cause stress, anxiety, and your bridesmaids feeling like they can’t catch a break! Asking too much of your bridal party (and yourself!) can be overwhelming on all accounts. And sometimes having to buy the countless items needed to make your centerpieces, table-scapes, etc. can cost more than renting or purchasing them fully made! Be conscious of your own time during this process, it’s valuable!

New York Wedding Planner Melissa Bee

4. Accept the fact that you can’t please everyone.

It’s common nature to want to please your friends and family, but when it comes to your wedding day, it’s not possible to make everyone happy. Do not stress or worry about accommodating everyone. This is the one time in your life that it’s OK to make it all about you.

5. If you are trying to stick to a tight budget, look for things that can be minimized!

Do you really need chocolate covered strawberries at each guest’s seat as or could you do strawberries on your dessert table? Does each guest need a “take home” favor, or can you have a little note that tells each guest you donated to a local charity in their name? Finding ways to still have what you want while doing it cost-effectively, will not only stretch your budget, but you will feel so much better about not over-spending.

6. Don’t get caught up in “Perfection”.

I tell my brides and grooms over and over, your wedding day will be perfect, because it’s your day! I can guide you and ensure that it goes as smooth and as flawless as possible, but I cannot control the sunshine (or lack thereof), the way the wind blows, or the way your dress flows. Be open to change! Enjoy taking photographs with adorable umbrellas in the rain, laugh when your bridesmaid’s hair is flying all around and your friends are trying to fix it, and enjoy the moment your dress has sand and seaweed on it because you wanted a beach wedding and photos in the shallow water! All of these “oopsie” moments make the best memories. It might not be perfect, but it’s practically perfect, and it’s yours.

New York Wedding Planner Melissa Bee

7. Remember to EAT throughout the day, including at the reception.

While many people do not eat when they’re nervous or stressed, I always suggest my brides, grooms and full bridal parties have breakfast/brunch available while they are getting ready, and snacks and beverages for directly after the ceremony. I also suggest ensuring you take a breather from saying hello to your guests at the reception and enjoy the meal that you picked out! Your body will appreciate the nourishment after a long day, and when you look back, you will be thankful you spent those moments together, eating your first meal together as a married couple!

8. Make sure your wedding has pieces of you and your fiancé’s personalities.

With bridal magazines and online forums, it’s easy to forget that this day is truly to capture you and your fiancé. If you love books and reading, have some of your favorites displayed as part of your décor. If your fiancé loves football, perhaps order him a groom cake to show your guests his interests too! Don’t let other people’s weddings and social media take over the day YOU are planning – remember it’s not what other people want, it’s what you want.

9. DO NOT hire a cheap photographer!

Just like I tell my brides, “If you think it’s expensive to hire a professional, wait until you hire an amateur” (if you’re debating hiring a professional wedding planner or a Day-Of Coordinator, keep your eyes peeled for another blog as to why it’s so important to do so!). Hiring a cheap or unprofessional photographer is a HUGE no-no. Your day needs to be captured exactly how it was; not with iPhone-quality images, unfocused photographs, or missed moments. Be sure to read reviews of recent brides that used this photographer, request to see recent galleries, and do some Google searches for their images to ensure they are who they say they are!

10. Work as a team throughout your entire planning process.

It’s easy to let the opinions or advice of others sway your decisions, because they “think they know best”, and you want to believe them. But this can also cause turmoil between you and your fiancé; especially when it is your side of the family telling you one thing, and theirs requesting another. Stay focused on what the two of you want and make your love and wedding-day desires the most important thing. 

New York Wedding Planner Melissa Bee

 If you’re craving more wedding tid-bits and helpful hints to keep your head above water during this crazy time, check back with Love Mia + Co. and my Facebook for more blog posts from me, or feel free to send me an e-mail to set-up a mini-planning session! There is nothing I love more than making wedding dreams come to life!

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